The Lovely Love

Its summer and Our family kids are spending their vacation together.They are energy bombs, happiness and I envy them

Initially They were happy meeting each other  but little refusing to get along . They had problems in sharing the toys food and their stuffs. 

After some days they seem to be much loving  protective & possesive of each other. They had the sense of belonging .

" Dont shout at my brother"

" m gonna give this to my sister "

"lets play together lets sleep "

They fight better and they settle it sooner .My sister's 5year old little  daughter came to us and told in a very strong voice

" M gonna marry vian"

And i thought i heard it by mistake and remained silent. she repeated it again

" Chithi m gonna marry him when i become big so that we can stay together always "

I had no clue on how i should react !

i held her in my arms and told her

" You can still love him  & stay together without marrying " and she nodded okay.

Thats movie effect absolutely !  Mainly the Indian movies which equates love to marriage .

I have just  written this as a letter for my little daughter  to  give her when she grows into teen 

" Dear baba you 'll meet the best people  in your life during your school or college days.. some will be your good friends and some might be special . You might feel so comfortable and happy being with them.you will enjoy their presence and talking to them.

You may wish to take it a step ahead & lifelong . You decide to marry your best friend .  It may happen as well it may not happen . If it happens you live with your best friend life long but if it doesn't you lose your best friend life long..  You fall in love for a stranger though  you dont end up in marriage it settles in time as you have no memories being together . But with friend it will haunt you life time  as you were spending all time n life togther and you cant take their loss.

You may feel like speaking to them atleast once in later stages of life but  you will be reminded of the dirty stuffs disappoinments of the past.

The Mess The betrayal The guilt  will never bring you both back .You just have to live with their memories and prayers for their well being . Isnt it a curse that u cant greet a hello / how are you / a
happy birthday ?

All these could be avoided  when you love them infinitely without Equating. 

When you Equate  there are chances that you lose .

But when you love indefintely without equating  though you lose you stay togther as best friends  life long being there for each other in all good & bad phases of life.

You still get a chance to  meet speak & share your life and love as best friends ever.

Life and time are powerful. It has so many twists and turns

you may get what you want

you may get more than what you wanted

you dont get anything at all..  

If life gives you what you wanted cherish it and be thankful.

Be always good to every one and keep them close to heart & dont be judgemental about life.  Love your family love your friends & foes.

Never equate love to anything..

Love is Love and it doesnt need a destiny ! 

Love And Regards
Chithi