The daily care

I have been searching for a good montessori/nursery  in town from few days. I  visited various montessori academy that are clubbed with day care. it was one such academy where A baby who just started to walk was trying to come to us and it fell down to the door and her head hit the door hardly . i took her consoled and she put her head on my shoulders and tried to pacify . There was no staff to panic run  lift and console her .The scene was all plain.Nothing and No one.

The scene  mentally stressed me a lot that only her face ,pain, helplessly crying came in a loop!

Its pathetic to see some month old babies being put up in day care. They need much love warmth and attention from parents grandparents & complete family!  Atleast a year . its an Individual's choice of staying at home or working ! But the least humanity is not to put them in day care until a year..

If continuing to work is something unavoidable  let the baby grow with parents and grandparents together . convincing elders of the family to stay together for one year atleast would be a great idea . even if that doesnt work out  hiring nanny who can be trusted  is a better idea as special care and attention could be given.

In the other school the lady in mid thirty told me" you can leave your kid in day care also if needed..for one day we charge 100  and per month its 1500 and if its half day we charge 750"  Isnt it silly? 100 rs and My baby ? Is my baby worth of only 100 ? 

In olden days we used to go to grandparents home or uncle home if mom or dad is not able to stay with us.. Even we were left with our neighbours who were like family. That was only love and care involving !! No one spoke about the money  ! Are we not commercialising baby and kids with so called day care ? When something is available for cheap doesnt the usage become more & frequent ? Doesnt it affect the cultural aspects of a family  and society ? Such things have stopped kids from mingling with family, cousins & neighbours.Its simple to drop in day care pay 100 rs and pick up. 

Is it the social pressure that makes a women to work though she doesnt want ? When i had a baby born lot of people were asking me if i am  working ? I  with a smile answered them "Not now"  (and in mind you cruel ).. It had put me lot of pressure that answering everyone  i resigned. I even hesitated to meet people..

Later i had realised that there is nothing to panic and only with  proud i faced it.  I had been there for all his needs and emotions. 

Some people at me  "  Hire a nanny and leave the baby to her  "   i replied  "so will you hire a maid fill your locker with gold and money  and give your locker key to her and go?   

Some adviced " go dont sit run  chase dont be stagnant or struck in life  the baby will grow some how"

i answered them  " i dont want my baby to grow SOMEHOW "

My kid after 2.5 years i see him much confident brilliant spontaneous fearless loving . when i choke ,he says "Do i need to bring water ?  And that fills my heart with million dollars !!

Least we can do is not to advice anyone to work run chase or to stay at home.

 Everyone have choices and chances !

Respect the choices.

Embrace the motherhood.

If not today ,someday..

Life doesnt end in a day ! 

Orphanages and Daycare has only one difference: THE AGE

  

Daily care is what a mother supposed to give her child and not the Day care !